I don’t know about you, but for me it goes against my natural instincts to be selfish. The thought of someone having to do something that they don’t want to do in order for me to do something that I want to do is uncomfortable. It’s not hard to figure out where I got this from, my mom and sister are the same way. You should hear the three of us when we try to figure out a place to go eat.
Mom: Where do you want to eat?
Sister: What are you in the mood for?
Mom: What about this?
Me and Sister: That’s fine.
Mom: You don’t want that do you? Let’s go somewhere else.
Me and Sister: No really, that’s fine.
Mom: No, you don’t want it. Let’s pick somewhere else.
And on and on it goes. Most of the time this instinct isn’t that big of a deal. Things like where to eat or what movie to see or what activity to do aren’t exactly decisions that will cause us harm if we don’t get what we want. But sometimes that’s not the case. Sometimes putting the wants and needs of others before our own can cause us harm. That’s a problem.
As with all things in life, there has to be a balance between selfish and selfless. If being selfless leads to our physical, mental, or emotional detriment, it is time to reevaluate our decisions and actions. This can be a really hard thing to do, especially when it involves someone we love. This is a lesson that I recently had to learn and it was the most difficult thing I have ever gone through. But I made it through. I learned that sometimes it really is okay to be selfish.
What do you think? Do you agree with me? Is this a lesson that you have had to learn as well? Let me know in the comments.